The Invisible Orientation by Julie Sondra Decker

The Invisible Orientation by Julie Sondra Decker


“An important resource for readers of any age who are struggling to understand their sexual orientation, or those who would like to better understand asexuality.” —Library Journal, starred review


Julie Sondra Decker’s book functions as a starting point for people interested in asexuality. It covers the basics of what asexuality is and isn’t, explores the most common issues asexual people may be dealing with, presents some pointers for newly asexual-identified people and the people who love them, and includes some resources to find out more. It’s for the layperson, written in everyday language.

She writes for people who are on the asexual spectrum, people who think they might be asexual, friends and family and partners of people who have come out as asexual, curious parties, and those looking for information on the subject for their school papers, sexuality studies, and alternative sexuality resources. And it’s for people who think asexuality doesn’t exist. Chapters include:

  • Asexuality as a Sexual Orientation
  • Romantic Orientation
  • Libido and Masturbation
  • Intimate and Sexual Activity
  • Asexual Relationships
  • Asexual Community
  • Should Asexual People Get Therapy and Be Fixed
  • Am I Asexual?
  • Should I Come Out?
  • And much more


If you think you may be asexual, or if you have a friend or partner who may be a sexual, this personal book will help you better understand what it means to be asexual in a world dominated by sexuality.


Next Generation Indie Book Awards Winner in LGBT 

  • Details

    Imprint: Carrel Books

    Published: October 13, 2015

    ISBN: 9781634502436

    Size: 6in x 9in

    Pages: 240

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